(photo: Mark Groves Instagram)
Is he cheating? If that thought has crossed your mind don’t ignore it. Unfortunately, that thought never crossed my mind dating this guy. I trusted him completely. Then I got an email… My heart dropped to my stomach instantly. Over the last couple of months I kept having gut feelings that he might not be the one for me, but I did what I do best…
- Listened to my insecurities
- Let fear of being rejected and alone creep in
- Thought “what if I make a mistake by walking away”
These are all things I’ve battled with for years and that mentality ignored those gut feelings.
I’ve been praying for a sign from God to know if he was who I was supposed to be with… I truly just thought our struggles were because of communication and some other things, but I did NOT expect to be completely blindsided.
Thankfully someone else had been asking for answers to her prayers too. Had she not had the courage to reach out to me I probably would have never know I was being cheated on for almost our entire relationship. I gave him the opportunity to tell me the truth as soon as I read that email. He denied any cheating and made her out to be a crazy ex-girlfriend. Because I trusted him so much I wasn’t sure what to think… So I met up with her for coffee and got proof that he was lying to me.
I feel so dumb… How could I be so naive and not know? And what I want to know even more is WHY DID HE DO THIS TO ME? I know in my heart I shouldn’t feel this way because IT’S NOT ME, IT’S HIM who should feel ashamed but I can’t help feeling this way.
I hope that non of you have been in this situation, but if you are then know it’s OKAY to have those feelings. It’s going to take a lot of healing and time to feel better, but it will get BETTER.
I was going to make a list of things to watch for if you think he is cheating… But, I don’t need to waste more time thinking about the time I wasted with him and being negative. I want to remind myself and you all how you should be treated.
REMEMBER HOW YOU SHOULD BE TREATED
- he wants to pursue and date you always
- he should make plans and be a leader
- he tells you how amazing you are all the time
- he wants to make you the best person you can be
- he should never make you wonder
- he gives you butterflies
- he makes you feel secure
There are many more things I’m sure that every woman deserves in a relationship, but I just can’t think of them right now. But, bottom line… We all know what we are worth and how we should be treated. Don’t forget that.
I still trust God has a better plan for me and pray that He is working on my future husbands heart.