Rise and wine! That’s my motto for Valentine’s Day! Jk 😉 Kinda… But really, you probably either love or hate Valentine’s Day… right? Considering I’m still single I can’t say I absolutely love the holiday. I never thought I’d still be dating at 31 years old, and heartbreak still sucks but it is what it is. This year I’ve decided I am going to embrace the holiday instead of feeling incredibly lonely. Not saying it’ll be easy but I think I’ve got some good ideas on how to make it a great day!
Although, now that Galentine’s Day is a thing you could just skip Valentine’s Day all together and celebrate with your besties! I’ll be doing both next week! Galentine’s Day is next Tuesday, and I’m hosting my single gals for a fun pasta making dinner party. Who doesn’t love carbs, wine, and chocolate? Btw…check out the chocolate wine below!
5 Tips to Overcome Loneliness on Valentine’s Day
- Make a list of everyone you LOVE in your life – at the top of the list write your own name. The best advice I got from my therapist was, “if you can’t love and take care of yourself how are you going to do that for someone else?”. This might be a day to take some time and reflect on your accomplishments and goals. Next list out the people in your life you trust, rely on, and love. Your family and friends will give you a few names on the list, but really think about people who influence your life. When you write this down and see it written out it should help you realize how blessed your life is right now. Live in the now not the future. That’s hard for me, but I’m hopeful a husband will be on this list someday.
- Stick to your normal routine – if you treat Valentine’s Day as a normal day it usually goes by pretty fast. Just because you’re feeling depressed doesn’t mean you should skip the gym or indulge in treats at work. Getting some exercise helps release endorphins which make you happy so get your booty movin! And, if you do treat yourself later with a sweet treat then you won’t feel as guilty.
- Stay home that night – normally I would suggest getting your girlfriends together for dinner on Valentine’s Day, but why should you go out and have to see all the happy couples? I’m NOT saying stay in and watch sad love story movies!! My friends actually used to watch scary movies instead. Not a bad idea… I personally would rather stay home and curl up with my furry pups instead of going out and spending money I don’t need to spend. They give me more love than anyone so why wouldn’t I want to stay home with them?!
- Stay off of social media – Okay so this might be kinda hard… It is for me considering this is my job. However, do all you can to not look at Facebook on Valentine’s Day. We see enough engagements and babies as single people every other day so give yourself a break!! Make it a game and test yourself to see if you can go 24 hours without social media. Sounds pretty easy, right? 😉
- Treat YOself – Like I mentioned earlier, this is a holiday about love and the person you should love most is yourself. That means it’s okay to treat yourself every once in a while. I’m not saying go splurge on yourself or go to the mall and buy a ton of stuff because you feel depressed (#guilty). I’m just saying it’s okay to go get a deluxe pedicure or massage. Maybe buy the nice bottle of wine? Or my treat is getting a cupcake from my favorite bakery! Don’t think of it as treating yourself because you’re sad that you are single on Valentine’s Day… You deserve this treat because you’re a great catch and you can get exactly what you want when buying it for yourself. Seriously, think about it… You don’t have to be disappointed your Valentine didn’t get you something crappy!
That’s all of my words of wisdom! This isn’t an exact formula for making you feel happy. But, some of these things might make you forget about the loneliness for a day! We should all celebrate that there is some form of LOVE in our life!
Happy Valentine’s friends!!
photos: Beckley & Co.